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Understanding the Patterns

Clear, sourced articles on spiritual abuse, manipulation and coercive control in Christian homes and congregations. Information, not counseling, therapy or diagnosis. Written by the author of the novel Christian Psychopath.

• Faith as a weapon

  When Forgiveness Becomes a Weapon

  How a sacred duty can become pressure to stay silent.

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• Recognizing the signs

  The Female Narcissist in the Church

  The patterns people miss when the charming one is a woman.

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• The basics

  What Is Spiritual Abuse?

  Definitions, signs and what the research says.

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• Tactics

  DARVO: When the Abuser Becomes the Victim

  Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.

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• When no one believes you

  Why Nobody Believes the Victim When the Abuser Is Beloved

  Reputation, loyalty and the community that looks away.

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• Marriage

  Married to Someone Everyone Thinks Is a Saint

  The loneliness of a private reality no one else sees.

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• The words

  Narcissism, Psychopathy, Sociopathy: What the Words Mean

  Clinical terms, popular use, and why labels need care.

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• Control

  Coercive Control in Christian Marriages

  Control without bruises: money, isolation, reputation, paperwork.

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• Men and abuse

  When the Abused Is a Man

  Shame, disbelief and husbands who are controlled at home.

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